Cheerleading Frienemies

Whether it's personal issues outside of cheer or your competitive nature kicking in, at some point in our cheer life we will have frienemies. You know those girls who you're friendly to but not friends with. It's the same thing as the girls you don't like that you pass in the hallways only in this case it's the girls you're stuck with every day for a whole season and most likely years of cheer. Here's all to hash out some of your frienemies without having to do anything but confront yourself!

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Jealousy

As much as you don't want to admit it this is probably the number one reason girls hate on each other and is probably the reason why you don't like your frienemies. They have something you don't which may be popularity, they might be pretty, have a wide dance background, be a great flyer, whatever the case is it's probably something that makes you a bit insecure about yourself. What you need to do is just honestly except that fact that everyone has their flaws and no one can be perfect, instead of being jealous of the things you can't have (like physical appearance) try focusing on what you can do. This is advice to be jealous of something because they're nice it's just advice have a nicer outlook towards yourself and people.

 

They're Just Plain Annoying

This is something a lot of girls say when they really don't have a good reason to not like a girl on their squad. But the annoyance that you see in them is probably something much bigger. Have you ever stopped to think that them not being able to catch on to a dance isn't annoying, it's just a chance for you to help them out and get to know them, or that them trying to crack a unfunny joke is just their way of wanting to fit in but they might be too shy to ask to hang out. There's a lot more under the surface and if you think something is just "plain annoying" you should not judge a book by it's cover and find the deeper meaning.

 

Personal Issues

Girls will be girls and that happens even before cheer season. Whether it's beef from middle school or you're seniors and have just never gotten along your personal issues cannot get in the way of being a team. The two of you need to talk it out and honestly just get over it because that stupid little thing that you're fighting over could make or break your team's bond. When two girls don't like each other sides form, and people choose sides, this is when things get ugly and you don't want this to happen so soon in a cheer season! Keep your personal issues personal and fix them with whoever.

 

I hope this helped you out. Remember that just because you have frienemies doesn't mean it's a good idea to have them. Be civil and try to work it out because there's no "I" in team. It takes every person to get a long and work together to make a successful cheer squad and it takes one person to bring it down. Just a few words of wisdom!

 

Love,

A Cheerleader